Have you ever taken the time to reflect on the meaning of unconditional love?
What do these two words mean to you? Is unconditional love something we give to others, or is it something we allow for ourselves?
To believe in unconditional love, and to actually love unconditionally, requires a great deal of thought, action, and faith. However these conscious actions don't come without great reward; a sense of freedom, truth and inner peace.
To love another unconditionally means loving their essence, as they are, no matter what they do or fail to do. It is a love without boundaries, without limitations; a love that puts grace and understanding before any feelings of judgement, anger, fear or resentment. It means loving another EXACTLY the way they are.
A big ask? Within the constraints of our minds, it may seem so… but when we are able to work on eliminating our negative thoughts about a situation, to work on eliminating judging someone else, we CAN learn to love in this way. We can be a beacon of light and peace at any given moment, allowing ourselves and anyone else involved the opportunity to begin again. This is when we can really tune ourselves and our lives into a higher more beautiful frequency.
In some cases loving unconditionally may mean setting someone we hold closest to our hearts free. And as much as it may hurt, if we are to truly committed to support someone in reaching their highest potential, achieving what is important to them in their life, being as happy as they possibly can, ensuring that all of their needs are met, we must allow them the opportunity to follow their own path.
It's at times like these we need to raise ourselves up to our higher selves, and instead of focusing on what we have lost and reacting in fear, we can look within and gain strength, wisdom and appreciation. We can choose to be kind and not what we perceive as 'right' and rather be grateful for the experiences shared and the lessons learned. When it’s time for them to go, send them off with peace and thankfulness for the lessons, love and growth they brought into our lives.
I have recently experienced just this. It has been the most empowering revelation I have had in my spiritual journey so far. The ability to stand back, observe my hurt, my pain; observe my thoughts and my feelings. Give them the space they need to be understood and recognised, and then graciously send them off. Allowing a place of pure love from within myself replace them, to remain in a state of calmness and peace. Knowing that whatever happens, everything will be ok. Surrendering my fears, and even having the capacity in my heart to remain close and supporting to that person. The greatest power we hold is the power to control our thoughts, which in turn controls our feelings; and allows us then to shift our perception from fear to love!
But where did this capacity to love unconditionally start?
It is human nature to seek out love and affection. It is an instinctual need. Our survival in part depends on it… but where do we look for this love?
We all have a habit of looking for love in a multitude of places, in people, in music, in nature, in meditation, in positive affirmations… to name but a few. As much as these sources provide us with comfort and joy, they are not the place we should be looking.
We MUST return to love in ourselves.
To love ourselves unconditionally means treating yourself with kindness. Never criticising anything you do, believing in yourself, finding time everyday for self care and personal growth, nourishing your body with healthy food. Supporting your physical and emotional well being and nurturing the true essence of who you are… your soul.
The truth is, once we start loving ourselves unconditionally, we begin to enlighten our minds and our hearts to love others the same way. We become a source of light in place of darkness and pure love in every situation. And when we are capable of such beauty, we are capable of creating miracles in our lives.