People often talk about finding your ‘Purpose’ or your ‘Passion’. If you feel uncertain about what this may be… look rather at the things that you enjoy doing and that you are good at. Then simply spend more time doing these things. The rest will automatically start to flow from this place.
Here I am in the airport lounge of JFK airport mid way through my journey home from a magical week of new moments, memories and connections at the doTERRA global convention in Salt Lake City. I am so grateful to all the people who made it possible for me be there.
I have learnt so much! not only with regards to the beautiful oils that I passionately educate on and share. I have also deepened my connection with myself; learning that true love from within comes from a place of allowing our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be seen and heard.
That is why it’s taken me a while to conceive this post.
I am a believer in speaking my truth, and in doing so I await inspiration rather than forcing myself to generate a piece of content for the sake of updating my blog. I have been acutely aware that is has been over three weeks since my last post. Although my aim is to refresh the content at least once a week. I have had to push those feelings of anxiety aside in order to truly be with myself over this time.
I have been pushing hard recently to build my incredible new Essential Oil business. At the same time as looking after my little team of boys during the last few weeks of their summer holidays. This term also saw the start of a completely new chapter in my quadruplets lives; the starting of their 'big' school adventure.
With this exciting new phase in our lives has come a huge range of emotions from them and myself (thank goodness for my emotional oils!). I have been so called 'waiting' for this day for a very long time. In the hardest and darkest days I experienced as a mother of 4 at once, I often thought to myself 'it's ok, this won't last forever and they will soon be at school'. Freeing up some of my time and allowing me to be a fraction of ‘me’ again. That might sound in some ways selfish, however as I am sure you can imagine It has literally been five years of dedication to their every need. From the day I found out I was pregnant with quads (10th Oct 2011) to date, I have put everything I have (as any mother would) into ensuring their safety, health, love and happiness.
Releasing them into their new phase of life has however not been easy. I have had to deal with the truth that my babies are now little boys, and they have had to come to terms with their new found freedom, responsibility, growth and emotions. For the first time in four years they have been separated; each in their own classroom. Something that I have always wanted for their own personal growth and sense of self. My heart has literally ached as I dropped them off in their respective rooms and watched them stand alone unsure of what to do and where to turn.
I feel truly blessed though to have been able to send them to a pioneering government funded Steiner School (Bristol Steiner Academy). This at least gives me true confidence and peace of mind that when I leave them they are being nurtured and educated in a way that will support the heart, mind and spirit. Something which is so very important to me.
Whilst this has been continuing in the day to day I have also been putting the fundamentals of my words and teachings into practice; through a complete revisit of what I stand for 'loving thy self unconditionally'. We are all on an ever evolving journey. No matter how far we have come or how long we have been committed on our paths into self love and inner peace, there are times when you 'forget'. There are times when you have to unlearn again the fear based thoughts and shift yourself back to a place of love.
Current circumstances in my life created a 'tiny mad idea' that shifted me back into a fear based mindset, and brought up a number of inner child feelings of rejection and abandonment. The repercussions of this has meant limiting self beliefs, anxiety, sadness and repetitive negative thought patterns.
At first I was surprised by my perceived 'regression'. That in itself upset and confused me, which lead to more feelings of guilt and self criticism. More now than ever before, I am conscious and fully aware that our thoughts create our reality. So by harbouring these thoughts and allowing my emotions to be lead them I am literally asking the universe for more of the same.
But when I really started to ‘be’ authentically with the sadness and created a daily practice of self care, I was able to comprehend a number of things. I became willing to see things differently and to understand completely what it was that I need to learn and grow from.
My willingness to change and release these crazy thoughts, opened my mind to possibilities. This slowly started to shift me into a place of acceptance and new inspiration. I realised the current circumstances were not really the issue, but it was the very core of my inner child rearing it head. I was able to start tackling the root of the problem head on. Going back to the beginning and practising self love and forgiveness has been my saviour.
Our subconscious beliefs which were ingrained from childhood have such a huge impact on the way we deal with situations and react to circumstances in our adult lives. Chemically what happens during our early years is that our brains start to produce certain chemicals to respond to stressful situations, things like adrenaline or steroids in order to protect ourselves. When we continue to produce those chemicals it doesn't allow our happy or positive chemicals like serotonin to be created. And after repeated events like this our brains actually start to form a habit. Our receptor sites for chemicals such as serotonin actually shrink and become unused. It’s at this point that we start to lay down the tracks in our brains for our belief systems and how we will respond to situations then and even later on in life.
When we are able to identify these ingrained subconscious beliefs and find a method of releasing and replacing them with new positive ones, we literally have the potential to change the sensitivity of the receptor sites that have shrunk. They are not stagnant and can change their arrangement. Therefore we have a bio chemical potential for change. When we start to make this change we have the opportunity to get in front of our thoughts and moods, which allows us to make new decisions and respond to circumstances in a completely different way.
This is why it is so important to be authentic with our thoughts and feelings so we can identify the root cause, understand what it is that we need to learn from them, be willing to change, practice forgiveness, listen to our inner guidance which will help us to start the process of clarity and change. The only way we can start to deeply understand ourselves and our emotions is through tuning into our hearts and mind. Meditation and self care is so important to enable us to do this. I have certainly had a shift in perspective; of my head space and my heart space... allowing inspiration to once again flow into those areas of my heart that were consumed by fear.
I am excited to resume normal Miracle activity and share with you some of the amazing things I have learnt at convention.
Have you ever taken the time to reflect on the meaning of unconditional love?
What do these two words mean to you? Is unconditional love something we give to others, or is it something we allow for ourselves?
To believe in unconditional love, and to actually love unconditionally, requires a great deal of thought, action, and faith. However these conscious actions don't come without great reward; a sense of freedom, truth and inner peace.
To love another unconditionally means loving their essence, as they are, no matter what they do or fail to do. It is a love without boundaries, without limitations; a love that puts grace and understanding before any feelings of judgement, anger, fear or resentment. It means loving another EXACTLY the way they are.
A big ask? Within the constraints of our minds, it may seem so… but when we are able to work on eliminating our negative thoughts about a situation, to work on eliminating judging someone else, we CAN learn to love in this way. We can be a beacon of light and peace at any given moment, allowing ourselves and anyone else involved the opportunity to begin again. This is when we can really tune ourselves and our lives into a higher more beautiful frequency.
In some cases loving unconditionally may mean setting someone we hold closest to our hearts free. And as much as it may hurt, if we are to truly committed to support someone in reaching their highest potential, achieving what is important to them in their life, being as happy as they possibly can, ensuring that all of their needs are met, we must allow them the opportunity to follow their own path.
It's at times like these we need to raise ourselves up to our higher selves, and instead of focusing on what we have lost and reacting in fear, we can look within and gain strength, wisdom and appreciation. We can choose to be kind and not what we perceive as 'right' and rather be grateful for the experiences shared and the lessons learned. When it’s time for them to go, send them off with peace and thankfulness for the lessons, love and growth they brought into our lives.
I have recently experienced just this. It has been the most empowering revelation I have had in my spiritual journey so far. The ability to stand back, observe my hurt, my pain; observe my thoughts and my feelings. Give them the space they need to be understood and recognised, and then graciously send them off. Allowing a place of pure love from within myself replace them, to remain in a state of calmness and peace. Knowing that whatever happens, everything will be ok. Surrendering my fears, and even having the capacity in my heart to remain close and supporting to that person. The greatest power we hold is the power to control our thoughts, which in turn controls our feelings; and allows us then to shift our perception from fear to love!
But where did this capacity to love unconditionally start?
It is human nature to seek out love and affection. It is an instinctual need. Our survival in part depends on it… but where do we look for this love?
We all have a habit of looking for love in a multitude of places, in people, in music, in nature, in meditation, in positive affirmations… to name but a few. As much as these sources provide us with comfort and joy, they are not the place we should be looking.
We MUST return to love in ourselves.
To love ourselves unconditionally means treating yourself with kindness. Never criticising anything you do, believing in yourself, finding time everyday for self care and personal growth, nourishing your body with healthy food. Supporting your physical and emotional well being and nurturing the true essence of who you are… your soul.
The truth is, once we start loving ourselves unconditionally, we begin to enlighten our minds and our hearts to love others the same way. We become a source of light in place of darkness and pure love in every situation. And when we are capable of such beauty, we are capable of creating miracles in our lives.
Oh my word... I am so incredibly excited right now!
Miracle Thinking has been in thought, planning and gradual action for the last few months, so be to penning my first post after a sudden surge of website building activity over the weekend (which enabled me to get it finished) just fills me with happiness.
I have felt a burning desire to share my thoughts, insights and guidance with you all. With the intention of awakening your hearts and inspiring your minds... and at last I can.
For those that know me, they have seen the fairly sudden shift of consciousness and lifestyle... for those that don't, this has been an awakening process for me. I was lucky enough to be introduced to an incredible woman (more about her to come) who healed my heart, mind and body with her Theta Healing practice. The experience was so profound, it woke me up to an entirely new life and purpose, and a commitment to follow my heart... walking an unknown path for myself and my boys that would allow us the time and the freedom to experience life together, to be happy, to love and to share this all with the world.
Embarking on this journey has been exhilarating and scary at the same time. It's not easy to let go of the many ingrained self limiting beliefs, the negative thought patterns and the judgement from others. Not to mention the pain that comes with closing the doors on old chapters in order to open new ones. However, I made a conscious decision and a commitment to myself to create this new life. Each and everyday I endeavour to get know myself better, to love and respect myself completely, to nourish my mind, body and soul with only positivity, health and wellness... and by being persistent and consistent the fruits of my labours are starting to blossom, and little miracles are well and truly appearing in my life.
When times get tough, and the fear and resistance start to creep back in, I find a quiet place to gather my thoughts and remember my WHY.
We all have a story, but at any moment in time you can choose to turn your story into a fairy tale. And when are you ready... it's so important to find your WHY. Your WHY will keep you going; it'll be your drive and your motivation to reach your dreams. It'll be what you come back to to lift you up when times get tough. Your WHY should be deeply inspiring and personal to you. What is your passion? What is your goal? How would your life be different if you achieved this goal? What are you willing to do to accomplish this dream? Think about your strengths and your gifts, what you're good at. It's when we start to take action on the things that we are good at and love we start to find love in our hearts, for ourselves and others. This is where it all begins. Loving yourself is the foundation!
So again, hello to you all... I can't wait to share more with you, and have a beautiful day.